Watch: Male 'Throuple' Speak Out about Birth Certificate Battle, New Book

by Kilian Melloy

EDGE Staff Reporter

Saturday February 20, 2021
Originally published on February 18, 2021

(left-to-right) Jeremy Allen Hodges, Alan Mayfield, and Ian Jenkins, and their children Piper, 3, and Parker, 14-months.
(left-to-right) Jeremy Allen Hodges, Alan Mayfield, and Ian Jenkins, and their children Piper, 3, and Parker, 14-months.  (Source:Facebook)

The three men who constitute the first legally recognized polyamorous family in the U.S. told an Australian talk show about why they went to court to all be listed on their child's birth certificate, and to talk about their new book.

Perth Now recalled how "Doctor Ian Jenkins and his partners Alan Mayfield and Jeremy Allen Hodges, from San Diego, paved the way for polyamorous families when a judge signed off on all of them being recognized on daughter Piper's birth certificate" in 2017.

Since then, the men have also become fathers to a 14-month-old son, the news article noted.

Hodges said during the men's interview with Australian chat program The Morning Show on Feb. 17 that the family are "content to just fly under the radar and live our lives," but added that all three men in the relationship being listed as parents on their daughter's birth certificate was important for the same reasons that any other family would want that legal recognition.

Hodges detailed that the men "all have pensions with our jobs and health insurance and those kind of things," and noted, "If you're not listed as your child's legal parent then they're not able to receive those benefits," Perth Now reported.

Hodges also pointed out that without all three men being acknowledged as fathers, "if our child, god forbid, was to end up in the hospital, one of the parents might not be able to go visit them."

Those concerns are identical to the ones many American families had, not only with regard to their children but to their spouses, before the 2015 Supreme Court ruling that found same-sex couples have the same rights to legal marriage - and the recognition and protections marriage brings - that heterosexual couples do.

"So it was really important to be recognized as the family that we are," Hodges added, "and thankfully we live in California, which is a state that, after some teeth pulling and fighting, actually did then allow us to do that, so it was amazing."

Jenkins has written a book, "Three Dads and a Baby: Adventures in Modern Parenting," about the family and their experiences. The book will be published on March 9.

Though the family have plenty of insights and anecdotes to draw on, luckily bullying - for either kids or dads - doesn't seem to be one of them.

"We did have a slight attention to the fact that our kids might be perceived differently," Jenkins told the Huffington Post last December. "We've had zero pushback from anyone in our professional and personal lives.

"Our oldest now is in preschool," Jenkins added, "and the other parents and kids are like, 'Cool! Tell us that story.' "

The Morning Show posted the interview clip at Twitter. Watch the clip below.

Kilian Melloy serves as EDGE Media Network's Associate Arts Editor and Staff Contributor. His professional memberships include the National Lesbian & Gay Journalists Association, the Boston Online Film Critics Association, The Gay and Lesbian Entertainment Critics Association, and the Boston Theater Critics Association's Elliot Norton Awards Committee.

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